First, please tell us
a bit more about yourself (name, age, where you live, what led you to making an
adoption plan, and anything else you feel comfortable sharing).
My name is Nancy and I am 46. I live in Illinois and have
all my life. When I chose adoption I was a single mom to my son and living in a
car. Looking back, it was the only decision that made sense. I did not want to
be a mom living on public aide. I wanted more for my children and myself. I was
given the choice by my mother either place the child I was carrying and move
back home or continue living in the car I was living in. I don’t place the
blame for the decision on my mom. I realized that by moving home with my son,
this was placing a burden on my parents as well. My father was a full-fledged
Parkinson's patient and I knew it would be difficult for him to have one baby
underfoot. I knew he could not handle two.
When and why did you
begin blogging?
I know this might sound strange, but I began writing when I
reunited with my girl. Blogging actually began when I needed something positive
to focus on. I am currently in the middle of a divorce and the one positive
thing in my life is the adoption/reuniting with my girl and her family. Writing
about the experience has helped me to focus on a beautiful part of my life. I
also believe that if I share the experience, I may be able to educate others in
the experience of adoption.
Tell us more about
the title of your blog. Why did you
choose it?
When I first reunited I wrote the first entry “Letting Go To Take Hold”. Why I remembered this I have no clue. I never realized that this
had stuck in my mind from my childhood. But, as I sat and wrote the first story
the lesson from confirmation days came back in my mind and I couldn’t let it
go. I had to include it.
Has the response to
your posts been mostly positive, mostly negative, or a mix of both?
The responses have been positive. But, to be honest it has
only been out there a short time. I have had negative face to face responses
from those who don’t really understand adoption. I have found that by taking
the time to explain my choice and the choices I could have made, usually helps
others understand that the decision was made out of love.
What post on your
blog do you consider a “must read” for people visiting your blog for the first
time? Or what post(s) from your blog is (or are) your favorite(s) and why?
I want to say all of
them, but I think the one that was the most meaningful for me was THE DAY EVERYTHING CAME FULL CIRCLE. I remember writing this and actually reliving the
day. I believe that this one shows the beauty of our adoption experience and
how with faith and love, everything really does come full circle.
Do you have any advice
for someone thinking of starting their own blog?
I have not been doing this long, but I would say to sit in a
quiet place and write from the heart. Allow yourself the freedom to say what
you would want to say about your child, yourself and your choices. If you have
a relationship with your child, respect their wishes and the relationship with
their family. I never include their names out of respect for them. My girl has read the entries and is fine with
what is written.
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