Saturday, September 1, 2012

What Music Speaks to You?
Music has always been a big part of my life. I like all types of music (with a few exceptions), and I really like music that I can relate to. During my angst-period my sophomore year of high school, I listened to Marilyn Manson and Nirvana day in and day out because I felt that it "spoke" to me in some way. Of course I can't see it now, but then, it was all I wanted to listen to.

Over the years, my tastes have changed. I've adapted more to listening to what is on the radio at any given time, and started broadening my horizons to other types of music, especially the music my daughter's birth dad constantly played.

Lately, I've been in the habit of listening to music I can relate to again. Songs that have lyrics that really speak to me in some way, or that I can mold to fit myself in some way. There are so many songs (mainly break-up songs, if you will) that remind me of my little girl. I know there are songs out there geared specifically to the adoption triad, but I'm not talking about that kind of music. I am fairly certain that some of the songs on my "Arianna" playlist have actually been featured in the Music Monday segment on this blog.

I was listening to one of my old Sarah McLachlan CDs the other day, cleaning my room and putting away laundry absentmindedly, when this song came on:

and something told me to stop and listen. I hadn't heard this song in a while, but I remember hearing it a month or so after I had my daughter, and thinking of her when I heard it. This time, though, the feeling hit me seven-fold. Take a listen if you have a moment, or take a look at the lyrics. It's about love, fate, missing someone, and admitting that you can't quite let them go. It could even be about someone passing away. I'm sure it's written about a significant other, but I think (if you are a birth parent) you may find yourself able to relate in other ways.

Do you have any songs that aren't written about adoption, but remind you of your child?


  1. Oh sure, TONS. And it changes DAILY for me. But I have 2 big ones currently. My song that reminds me of HER is Yellow by Coldplay...what reminds me of the adoption itself and my feelings about it is Black by Pearl Jam. The last chorus is perfectly fitting.

    1. I believe we have spoken about this before! I feel the same way! I've always loved the last part of the song, but now it gives me chills.

  2. micheal buble, "havent met you yet"