I found out early on in my pregnancy that there was not many people who could give me advice on what to expect after the adoption because well, they weren't birth moms. Once I found my therapist, who has been a birthmother for 40 years, I felt so much more at ease knowing what to expect after the adoption, ways to cope, and it just felt amazing to talk to someone who had been there.
Not long after having Noah, I attended the BirthMom Buds retreat as well as in- person support groups at a local adoption agency. Needless to say, I had met a huge group of strong, intelligent women who I could now talk to about everything I had been holding back from my family. I love my family and friends but it's hard for anyone to relate to someone who has not been there.
Having a friend who is a birth mom is unlike any friendship I have had. When I talk about my son, I don't feel like she is looking at me and pitying me or holding anything back because she doesn't know what to say. When I talk to my support system of birthmothers, I feel listened to and know that they can relate to my situation.
Having a strong support system to lean on is key after placing! There are so many online support groups and retreats in all different parts of the U.S. for this reason.
Surround yourself with people who get it!
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