tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post9026994493968745274..comments2023-09-04T01:39:11.141-07:00Comments on BirthMom Buds Blog: Don't Keep Your Emotions Bottled UpBirthMom Budshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16631346337722891976noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-34911003225920635812011-12-01T10:31:40.159-08:002011-12-01T10:31:40.159-08:00Right after my son was placed 19 years ago, I only...Right after my son was placed 19 years ago, I only cried when I was alone, which wasn't very often because I was still living with my parents and I took on three jobs to try to keep my mind and emotions off him. It made me sick in more ways than one, but I didn't know any better then. <br /><br />I thought that my mom was having to deal with her own pain, and couldn't handle mine too...little did I know, she and I could have been a healing support group for one another. <br /><br />OH, I did not journal either...tho I did write two poems, and wrote out my feelings in my letters to his family. Those things helped me get things out I normally tried to keep inside.<br /><br />Then, when my boy was 18, I made contact. He agreed to come meet me, then changed his mind. It was like losing him all over again. But *this* time, I wrote 10 poems, cried all the time, and sought comfort in friends and family. I healed better and faster that way. I also came here for help, and I got a lot of good advice and support. Yes, keeping it all inside will not only make you sick, it will delay your healing! You need to let it out, and writing is an excellent way to do that whether it be journaling, writing letters to the aparents (just keep them if your adoption is closed) or your child (save them for when you finally reunite), or poetry. Don't take on three jobs and screw on a smiley face if that's not how you feel. It will NOT help!!<br /><br />oh, and now...my boy occasionally writes me emails!! They are few and far between and very short, but contact is contact! There is hope for you all, even those of you in closed adoptions!!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16838900123592523265noreply@blogger.com