tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post4272923510315302928..comments2023-09-04T01:39:11.141-07:00Comments on BirthMom Buds Blog: Two Forbidden A WordsBirthMom Budshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16631346337722891976noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-45410705562835943792011-03-30T21:12:16.769-07:002011-03-30T21:12:16.769-07:00People think that the women who choose abortion wo...People think that the women who choose abortion would/should choose adoption if abortion wasn't an option. However, most of the women who choose abortion are not in a position to continue the pregnancy at all, and thus choose adoption in the end. <br /><br />First, I wish that people would just leave abortion up to the parent(s) and the woman's doctor. Second, if the law has to go mucking around in it, I wish it would be to simply state the pros and cons of all three choices - abortion, adoption, and parenting. All of this "must see a sonogram", "must be told what's going on developmentally", etc. is just plain mean. <br /><br />I really do think that the adoption industry will change. It's slow, for sure. But as more birthmothers and adoptees come out of the woodwork and are vocal about their experiences, and try to use their voices for reform, instead of simple condemnation, the industry will have to change. More adoptive parents are finally getting their heads out of the sand and seeing what life is like for other members of the triad. Like I said, it will be slow, but it will change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-77030156737137616622011-03-30T08:39:59.094-07:002011-03-30T08:39:59.094-07:00I agree with Von. And as far as "supporting a...I agree with Von. And as far as "supporting adoption" goes, I can say that I know for sure that the adoption industry will NEVER tell a pregnant woman the risks of surrendering a child to adoption to herself, or to her child. Risks like suicide, lifelong depression, open adoptions not being legally enforceable (even in states where they are enforceable, it's a nightmare to fight if the ap's decide to close it) and secondary infertility.<br /> <br />This adoptee will NEVER support the separation of natural mother and her child.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-73956702630801924232011-03-30T01:14:17.771-07:002011-03-30T01:14:17.771-07:00The difference is that those aborted aren't ar...The difference is that those aborted aren't around to speak out while adult adoptees are.We know now how it really is for adult adoptees and how they view and live adoption. It's complex!Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com