tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post379983347320507495..comments2023-09-04T01:39:11.141-07:00Comments on BirthMom Buds Blog: Extended FamilyBirthMom Budshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16631346337722891976noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-74111989861155914212011-04-30T12:40:03.118-07:002011-04-30T12:40:03.118-07:00I see nothing good coming out of an extended famil...I see nothing good coming out of an extended family visit. I view adoption as too personal. I don't mean to be harsh, but your extended family has no business meeting your child especially if they didn't support your decision when you needed them. My family was NOT supportive and my mother has tried to contact my child's parents. I found it highly inappropriate and disrespectful to me. <br /><br />If you decide to allow this visit, your family will expect more visits, letters, and photos. Are you ready to handle their expectations after the visit?<br /><br />Also, I don't know about you, but the feeling of loss and missing my child is for me to grieve. I'm too sensitive to deal with my family's emotions/opinions about the situation. It's my child and my loss.<br /><br />I do respect your adoptive family's wish to get to know you and your family. It's admirable. Just remember to be self-protective first and foremost.<br /><br />Let us know what you decide!Janellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11249317805792873084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-48723019067188130202011-04-23T11:42:08.935-07:002011-04-23T11:42:08.935-07:00Yeah, this is really good. My situation is totally...Yeah, this is really good. My situation is totally different, but the 'not sharing' part really resonates with me. I have not even told my family of origin that I have met my daughter. I honestly can't imagine a time I would. My family was not supportive, so they don't get the blessings on this side of it. It sounds harsh, but it's my decision.Terrihttp://www.terrigake.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-66035930127737054222011-04-23T07:34:02.053-07:002011-04-23T07:34:02.053-07:00Wow. Just to let you know, your family is your chi...Wow. Just to let you know, your family is your child's family, too. It really doesn't matter if you don't want to "share" your daughter or not. I mean, seriously- they want to be in her life-and THAT is what is important. I applaud your child's adopters for taking this step.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com