tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post2981403741019684731..comments2023-09-04T01:39:11.141-07:00Comments on BirthMom Buds Blog: Congrats....I think?BirthMom Budshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16631346337722891976noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-78606952104762094232011-05-20T22:09:02.797-07:002011-05-20T22:09:02.797-07:00honestly, every time i hang out with others kids i...honestly, every time i hang out with others kids i think 'thank god for adoption'. i get my baby fix and all is well. im at a place in my life where im supposed to be and being a single mom wasnt a part of my equation. it reminds me how glad i am that i was smart enough to be the best mom i could be and make the right choice for him. never has it pulled at my heart strings or been hard to be around prego friends or babies/children. my friends have still continued to come to me for prego advice, shower theme ideas, how-to tips for baby care etc just like they did before i placed. <br /><br />did you not have a birthmom shower? i find that that really helps women/girls to heal and move forward in their adoption journey, because we deserve to be celebrated and honored just like any other new mother is at a 'regular' baby shower. and who doesnt love getting presents?! ;-)birthMOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479996077788889914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-61681280019311317112011-05-20T10:46:42.204-07:002011-05-20T10:46:42.204-07:00I think I focused on being happy for them really. ...I think I focused on being happy for them really. But I buried my own feelings for nearly 22 years. I didn't even deal with them when I started having my own kids...<br />It wasn't until reunion that I started dealing with it.<br />Everyone is different though. The thing in common is that it's always hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-78861397949070352752011-05-20T09:38:21.995-07:002011-05-20T09:38:21.995-07:00It's hard. It really is. But when you are arou...It's hard. It really is. But when you are around them and the baby, anytime you're around a cute little baby, it's hard to really feel anything but ooey-gooey, you know? It's hard later, but you get used to it. If you didn't, you'd be doomed to loose all of your friends once they hit parenthood. <br /><br />I think it's not really a question of how to cope, or how to deal, but it's a question of, is it worth dealing to not loose this friendJessikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09405995229640679536noreply@blogger.com