tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post1507507101465493642..comments2023-09-04T01:39:11.141-07:00Comments on BirthMom Buds Blog: I Wonder What He's ThinkingBirthMom Budshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16631346337722891976noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-33121328940402997612013-04-10T21:44:26.942-07:002013-04-10T21:44:26.942-07:00Lisa Iam sorry about your situaction,I will say I ...Lisa Iam sorry about your situaction,I will say I would adopt a child unselfishlly.I would have a open door policy to the birth mother.I believe that is best for the child the more love the better.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-88794259145182032912012-08-19T23:54:43.690-07:002012-08-19T23:54:43.690-07:00It's so neat to see your story evolve through ...It's so neat to see your story evolve through your posts. Coleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10618784227253360775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-382604311545130172012-08-15T12:14:56.022-07:002012-08-15T12:14:56.022-07:00Though you and I are on different levels of the re...Though you and I are on different levels of the reunion part and you and your birthson seem to see each other quite often, this is TOTALLY relatable for me. I wonder all the time what he's thinking or what he wants to ask me that he may be nervous or scared to ask. I think in time most everything will find it's way to the surface through conversation but it is a weird hesitantcy that lingers as to 'should I ask' or 'am I overstepping my boundaries.' My birthson and I just met at the end of March and I'm still kind of enjoying the unknown and I am excited to learn everything about him, but I do understand wanting to knwo about the little things like past Christmases, Easters, etc. I'm the same way. I swear he and I could sit and talk for hours and I'd still feel like I need to know more! However, like I said, I think in time you'll find your niche in talking to one another and hopefully it's sooner rather than later. :) God Bless!TinkerMel913https://www.blogger.com/profile/01312777390112814470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-13839545307145825912012-08-14T19:51:40.170-07:002012-08-14T19:51:40.170-07:00I am also in reunion and really do know how you fe...I am also in reunion and really do know how you feel. When my girl and I met it was over time that questions were answered. I learned very early on that it needed to be in her time. It needed to be about when she was ready to hear the facts.<br /><br />I still keep in contact with her bio-dad. We talk daily. We have remained friends. When I met her he kept asking me when she wanted to meet him. I always said.. It has to be in her time. Here we are 7 years later and it is finally in her time. They are currently setting it up.With my love.. https://www.blogger.com/profile/16638408301609451400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18367023828565958.post-73420563914634439342012-08-14T09:06:38.681-07:002012-08-14T09:06:38.681-07:00Lisa, I think a lot of us struggle with this, whet...Lisa, I think a lot of us struggle with this, whether we are in reunion like you are or living in an open adoption like I am. I'm glad you're going to get a chance to talk to your son about some of the questions you've both had!<br /><br />By the way, you don't need the "birth" qualifier in front of "son." We birth moms don't really need the qualifier either but it sometimes helps when we're talking to people that aren't in adoption to help delineate the roles that we have. I call my daughter, "my daughter" despite the fact that I relinquished. A legal document doesn't change her relationship to me just as it didn't with you and your son. :)Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09598390010327967653noreply@blogger.com